Your Relationship Goals

When you are with someone you really care about, how can you tell if that person is the one for you? How can you find out where your relationship stands? Are there any clues that could tell you if the relationship will lead into marriage?  Perhaps you are at the stage where you feel that you are ready to settle down and would like to know if the relationship is going anywhere. How do you find out if the person you are with is as committed to you as you are to him/her?  Below are some signs that could help you tell how serious and dedicated you and your partner are getting and how close you are into taking that next step:  You drop the "I" or "you" and start referring to each other as "we".  There is no one else that you can imagine being with than him or her. They are starting to become the most important person in your life.  You catch yourself thinking about ways to please your partner rather than yourself.  You see yourselves growing old together, walki...

  So often we spend most of our time taking care of our physical needs. We make sure our bodies are fed, cleaned, clothed, exercised and rested. We also make sure intellectual stimulation and entertainment is a priority. Yet we also overlook the most important need -- love. Of course, as a society, love is not overlooked. Popular media constantly places great emphasis on what we need to do and how we should look to attract "love". But being loved is not as powerful an emotional need as that desire to love someone else. The need to love and care for others is built into us biologically. This need is what allows parents to forgo sleep, food, and sanity while raising their children. This need is what allows people to put themselves at risk to save others from natural disasters and human threats. This need is what makes human society work on both a small and a large scale. Loving others allows us to put the needs and desires of others before our own. We will work harder and longe...

  Let’s get one thing cleared up first.  Being romantic isn't about some grand extravagant gesture like flying first class to Paris for a 2 week romantic blitz.  It's about the little things.  Little things are simple things that you do for your loved one. Despite the fact that they are "little" they can mean a lot because it illustrates that you took time out of your busy life just to show them how much you care.   One thing that most people want  is to feel special and loved.  It’s how you show them that you love them, where the challenge comes in.  Some people feel loved when they are told repeatedly that they are loved.  Others feel loved when they are touched frequently.  And others see love in gestures and everyday kindnesses.  Of course, there are others that may need all three of the above to really feel loved and secure but usually there is one need that dominates.  You need to find out what your partner needs and...

  Relationships based on love have many stages. The phase of romantic love does not last long. It is the most pleasant phase of the relationship and unfortunately, it passes very soon. The joy is short lived. After this phase comes the phase of mature understanding that may lead to a lot of bickering and split amongst many. Why allow that phase to come at all. Or why let romantic love die at all? Can we not continue that phase forever? Let us find out. In the phase of romantic love, the lovers feel very passionate about each other. They want to be together. They want to make each other happy. Their only objective is to enjoy the romance, send love notes to each other and enjoy the bliss of romance. After sometime, this phase passes away because of ego, relationship misunderstandings, expectations and other life problems that become more prominent. Can we not stretch romantic love forever? Experience says that it is not possible, but some exceptions are there. Why not follow the exc...

  Falling in love and entering into a romantic relationship with the love of your life is a really nice experience. But just like in any endeavor, a romantic relationship also has its ups and downs.  There are times that you and your partner will experience problems and conflicts that will surely test the strength of your relationship. However, sometimes, if these conflicts seem to go on in circles, the last resort you have in mind is to end the relationship which should not be the case since there are lots of things that you can do to make your romantic relationship work. First , you should never expect a perfect relationship because there is no such thing. There will always come a time that you and your partner will experience conflicts that will surely test the strength of your relationship. How you handle these problems will determine how intense your feelings you have for each other and how important your partner is to you. It is not a good idea to end the relationship j...

    If you want to know how to impress your date, and develop a successful relationship, read on! Be polite! As they always say, politeness doesn't cost anything. Any lover likes to be treated with respect and appreciation by their new flame. Politeness is an easy, socially  acceptable way to show respect and interest. It is also a very straight laced way of wooing  someone, but wooing it still is, and it might work wonders. Politeness still has the air of old  fashioned chivalry and romantic  liaisons and who can resist being treated like the queen of  someone's world? Be flirtatious. This is the part where you can show your passionate, playful and maybe slightly devious side. Flirtation is fun, exciting and sexy. You can show that you have some  sharper edges so that you don't end up in the 'boring lover' category. Falling in love is about  excitement, taking risks and playing with fire. Flirtation is a good way to show your darker side. ...

There are many ways to express love to your partner other than quoting the actual words "I Love You." Usually the fire in relationships dies down after a while and the feeling of your heart pounding with the excitement of being with your significant other is not felt nearly as often, or even at all. So, how do we get back that love, passion and warm feeling that wraps around us and penetrates our thoughts in the beginning of a relationship? Many say actions speak louder than words so below I have listed 5 secrets to help you show your partner how much you truly love them:  Flirt- This is a light-hearted seduction with the intent of conveying love! Why not send a sexy text message or email while you are at work? This reminds the other person that you are thinking about him or her. It also increases the intensity of love so that you actually look forward to seeing each other when you return home from work.  Candles- Light a few candles and enjoy quality time at home. Food- I...

Do you ever feel like you catch up with your partner infrequently, often late at night when you’re too tired to speak?  Or when your timetables happen to collide?  There are work dinners, school outings, sporting practice, dinners with friends, homework to supervise, household chores and so the list goes on.  Do you feel like you need to make a date night just to spend some one on one time with your other half?  Time when you’re not sleeping?  If this sounds like you then I'm sure you will enjoy these tips for keeping each other close at heart, even if you can't always be as physically close as you'd like.   It's all about communicating and sharing the little things that make up our lives.  Here are ten easy ways to make your feelings known:  Birthday Love Letter- There is something powerful about a letter.  Writing down all the things that you love about the other person and then giving it to them is a very personal and thoughtful thing to ...

A good portion of the enjoyment of a pleasant date is in anticipation. We have a date for Friday night and we think about it throughout the week. We think about what we will wear, where we'll go, what we'll eat, what we'll say and do. We plan on how long it will take to get ready and whether we'll need to leave work a few minutes early. When we enter a relationship, we stop dating. We see each other, of course, much more than we did in our dating days. At the onset of living together, we still have that sense of anticipation before seeing that beloved face. We hurry home to the most important person in our little world. After years together, we become used to the routine. We may enjoy seeing our significant other as much as ever but the exhilarating anticipation has become normalized. We have become habituated to the lives together we have created. We need to start dating again. We need to create special events that we can look forward to with keen relish. Think about w...